Building the Good Memories
Although there are two main steps to achieving your dreams and goals - Believe and Do/Be - Each of these contains many subdivisions. Here are just a few to think about...
How you "see" yourself - your self-image - is everything. We all have an internal "set-point" of what we will and will not allow ourselves to achieve or become. This internal "set-point" often reveals itself in our thoughts and beliefs about our self and our world.
Notice your self-talk - the mind-chatter that goes through our heads continuously. What are you telling yourself?
"Oh, I could never do that." or "who do you think you are?" or "I'll never figure this out" or "I'm so fat, or stupid, or _______" (you fill in the blank)?
Is your self-talk limiting you? Or does it encourage you to "go for it"? If it's limiting you, say "Cancel!!" And then rephrase the statement into a positive, affirming affirmation.
Our internal set-point, or self-image, can also comes out when others give us a compliment or encourage us to stretch or try something new.... Or anytime when we consider stepping out of our comfort zone. It comes out as what I call it the dreaded "yeah, buts". If left alone, they'll kill an idea or a dream faster than you can say 'lickitty split".
Believing in yourself is about confidence.
Confidence is a choice. It's a learned behavior, which means you get to "choose" it - or not.
The main thing I remember from my Dale Carnegie training was.... "If you act enthusiastic, you'll be enthusiastic." It was a mantra the instructor made us say many times each night.
And it applies to confidence as well: "If you act confident, you'll be confident."
The reason is - Actions Change Feelings.
Most likely, the change won't happen overnight. But with practice, that feeling of 'lack of confidence' will evolve into 'Confidence.'
It's much like "feel the fear and do it anyway." Courage doesn't come from being without fear. It comes from DOing inspite of the fear. Courage is the result.
And so is Confidence. It builds each time you turn "I can't" into "I did."
Believing in yourself is also about Trust and Faith.
Trust is knowing in your heart and Soul that the Universe - God, Spirit - is here FOR YOU - not Against you. It's about being able to see the Bigger Picture of life and being able to 'trust' the flow. Everything happens in Divine Timing.
It's also about knowing that there is Divine Help available to you for the asking. In the Bible it says, "Ask and ye shall receive."
But you've got to "ask"! (That's the part about free will :)
Your Higher Self, God, Angels, Spirit Guides, and Helpers..... they're all there waiting for you to ask them for assistance.
And then you have to be willing to listen.... (but that's another story!)
Faith is really "trust in action" - or "believing in yourself" put into action. It's that inner knowing that you CAN and WILL receive your heart's desire - or something better!
It's the transition point between Believe and Do / Be.
Do and Be
You have to take action to make that dream or goal happen. Wishing and hoping won't get you anywhere accept more deeply into wishing and hoping.
But to take action, you've got to have a clear picture of where you're going. (Read my blog post, "Don't Limit God?" for more insights on this.)
Assuming you know what you want and it's "SMART" - specific, measured, accountable, realistic (yet stretches you too), and timed - you're armed and ready to move forward.
Where do you start? Part of goal-planning process is to set up the steps needed to reach your goal. Another part of it is listening to your intuition - or your 'gut' - and acting on it. I call this taking "inspired action."
However, the biggest thing that keeps most people from achieving, doing, and being - is the follow through.
You've got to live and BE your dream every day - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. (more on this in a later article)
Although there is magic in writing your goals down and putting them in a drawer (or in a file on your computer) and forgetting about them, keeping that goal or dream in the forefront of your mind will greatly enhance your results. It serves as a visual reminder as you build momentum with daily, weekly, monthly action steps.
If you're like me, "out of sight, out of mind" is about as effective for living your dreams as the Black Plague is to living a long, healthy life.
Also, as you Do and Be..... Stay positive. This plays off the "Believing" part too. Avoid the nay-sayers - those in your head (your self-talk) and those in your environment (friends, co-workers, and well-meaning, or not-so-well-meaning family members.) Dreams and goals - especially in the beginning - are like little babies that need to be nurtured and cared for. Keep them save and don't allow anyone or anything to snuff out your passion or derail your momentum
And probably most important - and most often neglected aspect in achieving your dreams and goals is to get support!
Hire a coach or partner with a buddy to keep you on track and accountable. We all have our favorite ways of sabotaging our success. And we all have our blind spots. A trusted friend or a professional life coach can help you get through the obstacles more easily and quickly than trying to go it alone.
So, what are you waiting for?
Get off your duff and kick those "yeah buts" in the patootie!
Turn those "I can'ts" into "I did's"
Write up those goals and put them somewhere you'll see them everyday.
Do something every day to move you forward in the direction of your goal.
Stay positive and avoid the nay-sayers.
- Get support by hiring a coach or enlisting the help of a trusted friend.